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Disciplining Children Without Getting Angry Or Yelling

A huge mistake in parenting today is that parents yell, get angry, and even scream at their children thinking that it will make them submit to parental authority. However, this method of discipline is ineffective—not to mention frustrating for the parent. Children are actually cleverer than we give them credit for and can be reasoned with quite effective if the correct methods are used. This essay will show that there are better ways to discipline a child than to lose one’s temper.

Back threats up with action

Kids learn quickly whether or not to take their parents seriously. If a parent is continuously threatening punishment but never making good on those threats, the child will soon realize this and get to a point that is beyond the parent’s control. Speaking to children is essential, but there must be action as well as words, or the child will not take discipline seriously.

Methods of discipline

Some good ways to discipline children are to take away their privileges. This teaches them that a lot of what they have in life are privileges—not rights. If an allowance is given, it can be retracted as a form of discipline. If a child wants to go to visit a friend, that privilege can be denied as a form of punishment for doing something wrong. However, it is equally important to tell children why they are being punished, and why what they did was unacceptable behaviour.

“Because I said so!”

Kids are extremely intelligent and can be reasoned with better than we tend to think. If parents continually give the reason, “Because I said so,” to children’s questions of authority, the child will never learn lasting good behaviour. There must be a reasonable explanation of why something is not allowed and honesty is an important part of this process. Because you said so is not a valid reason for telling a child not to do something and will simply result in rebellious behaviour—either now, or when they are teenagers.

Discipline can be carried out without the need for screaming and shouting. Parents must give their children more credit when it comes to explaining rules and boundaries. This also involves some flexibility when it comes to permissions. If a child can give a valid reason why something should be allowed, then parents should be open enough to negotiate new rules that are fair toward all.